Back in the days of the film character that gave this website its name, it was pretty rare for an older woman to date a younger man.
Or rather, if they were involved with someone young enough to be their son, it wasn’t something that the 1960s Mrs Robinsons talked about in public.
But times have changed and many older women are now only too happy to admit that they prefer their men on the good side of 30 – or even younger!
In fact, 2010 is predicted to be the Year of the Cougar – and why not?
An ‘older woman’ these days is likely to be youthful looking, in great physical shape and looking for some excitement in her life. But often, she’s already accomplished a great deal in her career and knows the importance of relationships.
Cue the younger man, stage right. He’s tired of being given the brush off by trendy teenagers and Twenty-somethings who aren’t interested in him unless he’s got a high flying job and a wardrobe full of designer gear.
In fact, Mrs Robinson is just what he’s looking for. A woman who will appreciate him for what he is. A woman who knows what she wants in life and has the self confidence to go for it.
This can be a refreshing change for a young guy who’s used to dating girls of his own age. Often, they don’t really know what they want themselves so how on earth is their guy supposed to figure it out
Older women are usually comfortable with themselves – or at least they’ve got over the complex they had at one time about their ears being too big or their complexion being less than perfect.
Of course, an older woman still expects to be treated decently and complimented on her appearance (that’s a given for any female after all!). But she won’t be constantly looking for reassurance that she looks great and she won’t turn it into a huge drama if you ring her 10 minutes later than you promised.
Even better, an older woman has the kind of level-headed maturity that comes only with life experience. She’s unlikely to be into the kind of dating games that younger women like to play.
And that makes things much less complicated for everyone. She knows what she’s looking for and unlike her younger counterparts, she isn’t too shy to let her younger guy in on the secret.
Then there’s her wealth of experience – both sexual and otherwise. Many younger men have stumbled through a number of relationships with women of their own age.
But they still don’t really know a lot about what women want because so many younger women are loathe to spell it out. Often, the only thing a guy knows is what she didn’t like!
So Mrs Robinson comes into her own here! She’s been there and bought the t-shirt – and often she’s only too happy to teach a younger guy a few bedroom tricks.
But of course she has lots of experience outside of the bedroom too and can be a great help in dealing with difficult situations – such as when you’ve had a falling out with your best mate or a tricky situation at work.
Chances are, she’s gone through something similar and knows the pros and cons of the different solutions involved.
And last but not least, she’s often already had her fairytale White Wedding with huge reception, complete with horse drawn carriage and ice sculptures.
So she knows only too well that Happy Ever After isn’t everything it’s cracked up to be and that buying your first home can bring stress, expense and lots of tiring decorating – rather than the perfect married life you see in the movies.
In short, she’s reached a stage in her life when it’s not all about climbing the career ladder, getting kids into the best nursery and owning the biggest house on the street.
It’s more about personal fulfilment, making time for the things that really matter in life and – most of all – having a great time.
But don’t make the mistake of thinking that it’s her younger beau rather than the cougar herself who stands to benefit from the older woman/younger man relationship.
Far from it – there are lots of bonuses for her too as we’ll outline in our next article – What’s In It for the Cougar.