When I told friends I was joining a dating site, several of them told me to watch out for scammers. So I decided to look into what it is scammers do and took a crash course in the art of scamming, forewarned is fore armed I thought. Am I glad I did, because, they are out there!!!
Within a week of joining my first scammer hit on me. Calling himself Randy Perez. He sent a chat request -they are as rare as hen’s teeth – and I answered. He immediately wanted to go to IM chat, I was cautious but agreed and what a waste of time. He repeatedly asked if I wanted to be loved and treated like a queen, well who doesn’t? Our chat was dull and apart from asking if I wanted a soul mate and undying love he would only answer “I See” when I answered his simple question such as do you like movies?
I had a bad feeling about the conversation which was not going anywhere so I told him so. The conversation was not flowing for me and I closed the conversation and blocked him. I received a MASSIVE e mail telling me all about himself. Everything but the kitchen sink thrown in.
Everything Randy did was classic romance scam he moved the conversation directly to an external IM because what is said on MSN, YAHOO, GMAIL etc. is not reportable to the website
He sent long emails giving tons of personal information, moved around a lot, only child, looking for love, widowed etc.
Randys profile disappeared off the site as soon as I blocked him
My second scammer was Brad Winters who claimed he was off to Chile because he worked for the US government. Considering he was supposed to have a master’s degree and work for the US government his spelling and constant use of i not I was a giveaway. As were his professional photos taken from a male modelling site.
He was also a widower who had been married to an angel a pearl of a woman; I knew more about his son’s school than he did! I actually sent him an email saying I believed he was a scammer and POOF!! He disappeared.
Last but by no means least was Graham Bagshaw, This is what he wrote:-
“From the very first moment i saw you I knew that we will do great together. It has been so long since a woman has captured my attention so fully or made my heart beat the way it did this cool day in september. Your smile lights up my entire spirit. Your laughter fills me with joy, and your mere presence with me on xxxxdatinggroup warm my house. I have no doubt you are the woman Heaven has made especially for me. Thank you for the comfortable conversations and for accepting me……”
I had never met this man, spoken to him on IM or in person, so it was obviously a load of old rubbish. I emailed him back the following:-
“I don’t know where you are from but you are not a real person > You are BLOCKED do not contact me again” Once again he immediately disappeared. Account deactivated. Surprise Surprise!!
This has not put me off, it’s part of the journey, somewhere out there is my Mr Wonderful, and he will be real and warm blooded and all mine!
Here are some useful tips to help you avoid the dating site scammers. These apply to men and women.
- They immediately want to get off the web site and onto Yahoo IM or MSN IM
- Their profile seems to disappear off the web site immediately after conversation begins
- They claim it was destiny or fate and you are meant to be together
- They immediately ask for your picture and they send you a picture of themselves
- They immediately want your address so as to send you flowers, candy, and teddy bears, often purchased with stolen credit cards
- They claim to love you either immediately or within 24-48 hours
- They immediately start using pet names with you: hon/hun baby/babe sweety/sweetie or dear/my dear
- They claim God brought you to him/her
- They typically claim to be from the US/UK (or your local region) but they are overseas, or going overseas
- Their spelling is atrocious
- Their grammar is not consistent with how British/American people speak
- They appear uneducated with their speaking/writing skills
- They over-use emotions
- They are notorious for using BUZZ
- They are notorious for using “i” instead of “I”
- They consistently use web speak or abbreviations; u r ur cos pls/plz ma sry brb div
- They often mix up their phrases: “i” will like to heer from you soonest, I am kool, Do you have any man you care to meet, Do you have any man you planning to meet, Looking for someone to love and care for in life, Am cheerfull in life, I will like to meet someone that is careing and loveing for real in life, “i” am too young for my age if you don’t know, Ok so how will you feel if i says i dont mind you, i will like you to be my best friend, You are so pretty for my likeness
- They misunderstand our slang or comparisons such as night owl/early bird, poker face