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Cougars play when the cat’s away!

This post is aimed at cougar ladies who have grown-up kids. Perhaps the fruits of your loins have recently flown the nest to college, or they’ve finally moved out to their own place. Whatever the scenario, both parties are enjoying a new-found independence and – more to the point – privacy. Perhaps this has led you to explore cougar toyboy dating options? Have you been looking forward to reclaiming a precious sense of personal space? Whatever has led you here, it means that you can now afford to relinquish certain responsibilities and not worry too much about leading by example: You can come and go as you please and see whoever you want with no one to answer to. Sound familiar?

This new-found freedom will probably take a bit of getting used to: It might be the first time you’ve lived alone, and the first time for years that you haven’t had to worry about what time those troublesome teenagers are rolling in at night. It’s time for some role reversal: Very soon, you too could be tiptoeing up to the front door in the wee hours setting the neighbours’ curtains twitching. This could all be thrown into sharp focus when those fledglings return home for the hols. What happens to your new-found freedom then?

When they return, they’ll certainly have grown up very fast. They won’t want you fussing and fretting about them staying out late. It works both ways though – you will also have settled into a new routine and won’t appreciate curious sons or daughters peeking over your shoulder when you’re ‘sexting’ your toy boy! (That’s what the young folk are up to these days, so I’m told.) Both parties will require their privacy and both parties should try to be respectful of this new status quo. Hang onto this because it will give you bargaining power when you drop the bombshell…

If one of your dates has eventually turned into a toyboyfriend, you might be hard pushed to keep him secret during Uni. holidays. It could come as a bit of a shock to your offspring to find that mum’s been up to nonsense (if you’re lucky) with someone almost half her age while they’ve been away. But, you can field any backchat by making it clear that you also deserve a bit of fun after dedicating so many years to child rearing.

Some of you will have had the ‘but age doesn’t matter’ conversation with daughters who date unsuitably older men. You can remind her of this if things kick off when you share your news. You can use their own assertion of new-found independence to your advantage in explaining the need for mutual respect; it’s not just ‘yoof’ who can be footloose and fancy-free. Your offspring might suggest that your ‘friend’ has more in common with their generation than with you in a bid to ridicule your situation. If that’s the case, you can say that there’s no reason why they shouldn’t all get along famously when he comes over for dinner…

One Response to “Cougars play when the cat’s away!”

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