You’ve managed to bag a date with the mysterious sexy cougar lady that you’ve had your beady eye on for a while. But what does a young toy boy talk about to an older, much more experienced and worldly woman?
In terms of conversation topics, you mustn’t forget that there is an age gap however insignificant you feel that is. Chances are that she’s more likely to have interests in common with your mother than with you. Don’t, whatever you do, talk about your mother! Try not to mention how you still take your washing home to her on weekends, or that you still live at home, all tucked up with your Ninja Turtles, or similar. It will make you seem far too immature for her to consider any liaison possible. She doesn’t want to feel like a cradle-snatcher.
Don’t say, ‘My mum’s got a dress just like that’, even if she has. We are trying to avoid drawing attention to the age gap issue and the unleapable chasm that it might open up between you. The last thing any older woman wants to feel is just that – old! One of the reasons she’s dating you is that she wants to feel young again, but not quite to the extent that she wants to share all your youthly interests. For example, please don’t expect her to join you in staying up until all hours playing Grand Theft Auto, especially after sex. Not polite, and possibly quite offensive. Unless she’s IT-savvy, there might be gaps in techy-type knowledge too: Don’t be surprised if she glazes over when you flash your new phone with its fifty comedy ringtones and fancy apps.
You could compliment her on her looks – her clothes or jewellery. Not that we’re saying she’s superficial and you can woo her with flattery alone. Try to keep conversation current and up-to-date. You could talk about the latest films you’ve seen, books you’ve read, interesting or funny news items, TV gossip, community events, jobs, travel etc. Happy chatty cougar dating!